So, of course every date is different right? Different personalities, and jokes. Different looks. Hopefully a different location (because who wants to have a first date at Jack Brown's 100 times... no one.)
While first dates are great and obviously necessary to find the "perfect" match.. there are, however, some parts of the process that are not so fun and actually cause a great deal of anxiety. We've found that ALL first dates, seem to have these things in common:
1. The Awkward Initial First Sentences:
Texting back and forth before the first date is no thang, right? You get to be quick witted. You have more time to think of a comeback and surprise them. I think we all find ourselves in this awkward jumble of mess that is our "first sentence." Which only makes you more nervous because you're now self conscious about how awkward you've just made things...
2. Are They What You Pictured They Would Be?
Ok. Ok. Let's all be real for a minute. Tinder and Bumble are dominating the dating world. Blind dates and being set up by your friends just doesn't happen anymore! Generally, we all have a pretty good idea as to what we can expect our date to look like! Which, thank God, because had we all known beforehand who our friends were trying to set us up with... chances are we would have said no. Sorry friends, A + for effort.
3. The Kind Of Food You're Eating:
If this man decides to take you to anywhere that is pasta related... he is the devil himself and this just isn't going to work out.
But really! Who in their right mind wants to eat pasta in front of someone on the first date!? No one eats pasta in front of ANYONE until there's a ring on it and the vows are over. Then it's too late.... and well, they're stuck with your unattractive eating habits. Even salad. Salad can be tricky. If you don't attempt to cut up the leaves, you're bound to have salad dressing and particles slapped all over the sides of your face.
4. Who's Going To Get The Bill?
Believe it or not, some guys don't always get the bill. We also live in a more progressive society now where guys could expect that we want to pay. For that reason, this almost creates an awkward, "Do I reach for the check or should I excuse myself to the ladies room..?" #schmakward
5. The Departure:
Obviously, if both parties haven't seemed to enjoy their time together, it's pretty obvious how the departure is going to go. What causes even more anxiety, however, is if the date has seemed to go great on both ends. From point A being the table, and point B being the front door. A BILLION questions circulate through your mind as you're on your way out.
Do you wait for them to suggest that they'll text you later? Do you kiss? Do you hug? Do you drop verbal hints? Do you try and lock down when your next date will be?
Nonetheless, as anxiety-filled as anyone's first date can be, we all can't deny the magic and butterflies that ALSO come with it. It's all worth it in the end and can make for some seriously amazing stories in the future!
Cheers to all of our gals in the dating world and may the odds be ever in your favor.